How Can I Attract My Ex-Boyfriend - Control The Relationship Between You Two

He broke up with you. Just remember that!

You’ve been through all the drama, the pain, the tears, you’ve fought through it abut you know what?  You are still here.

You are still surviving, you didn’t die, lost a family member,  a limb or money because your ex-boyfriend broke up with you.

What this means therefore is that you are perfectly capable of living without him.

The question that you now need to ask yourself is if you are sure that you want this man back. He broke up with you remember? 

So really it’s his loss. He threw away what you had. So if he doesn’t want to be with you. That’s fine because in theory there are many more where he came from.

This is what I would really prefer for you to be thinking, to tell the truth.

But ok, let’s say that you have done your assessment of your previous relationship and by your estimate, yes this is, in fact, a man that you would like to be with again for a solid, happy relationship. Yes, you do want to do things differently this time around.

If you are sure that you want him back, the first thing you have to do is to control the relationship between you two. I’ll explain why.

 Have you heard the saying that in a relationship, the person who cares least controls the relationship?

Up to this point can you see how this is true?

Until now, your ex has been controlling the relationship between you two and your emotions as well. He broke up with you and managed to break your heart in the process because out of the two of you, he cared least about the relationship.

Well clearly since he wanted to break up with you. He wanted to end the relationship so that is a no-brainer. 

But do you also see how he has managed to control the relationship to the point where he was able to make you upset and thinking of doing things that under normal circumstances you would not even think of doing?

He had you acting like a little basket-case over HIM? And trust me, he isn’t THAT hot. Not hot enough for you to be acting psycho....Forget it.

Well I can assure you that that is about to change because we are going to flip the script on him!

You now have to become the one who cares least. You have to be the one who controls the relationship. That’s how you’ll stand any chance whatsoever of getting him back!

Your mission, should you choose to accept it, will be to convey a message to him that clearly states that you are over him and couldn’t care less whether he was in your life or not, but WITHOUT ever uttering those words.

Here are two good reasons why you want to do that!

This gives you a chance to ensure that you and your emotions are no longer being controlled by this man. Even more importantly than the effect this will have on him, is the effect that this will have on YOU.

Instead of focusing on him and what he does which shows that he still has control over you and your emotions, you get to pull back, collect yourself and focus on you and how you can better yourself. 

This has nothing to do with him and everything to do with you. 

You neglected yourself way too much in the past few days thinking about him and what he did to you. 

Enough! It IS time to take back control of you and your emotions and you do that by focusing on you!

  If this man really did love you and care about you then he has to feel some way about the thought of losing you for good or at least knowing that you might no longer give a damn about him or anything he does.

Once you start acting in a way that conveys this message to him, he’ll start to wonder if he meant anything to you at all. Then he’ll start to wonder it ALL the time because you are no longer giving him the time of day and so soon after the break –up to make matters worse!  

What the hell is going on? Doesn't she miss me? Good...let him keep thinking that :)

Meanwhile, you are living your life and not thinking about him as a factor in your life …  or so he thinks.

I actually don’t want you to think of him at all because then it makes it all the more real and interesting. 

When he begins to believe that you don’t care about him at all, he’ll find a way to contact you and that’s your big break...

This is how you become attractive again, for yourself and to attract your ex- boyfriend and that is exactly what you want, correct?

Now you'll need specific things to do to convey this message and guidelines on what to do when. 

Pick up your plan here! Listen, read and download. Take back your control!

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How Can I Attract My Ex Boyfriend - 2 Reasons Why You Must Control Your Emotions

I'm not sure how long it has been since your break-up but now that the smoke has cleared and you are thinking more calmly and more rationally after all the drama, you are probably now wondering "how can I attract my ex-boyfriend".

This is a very good question. It is good because it shows that you know that the only way to get your ex-boyfriend back to become attractive to him again. 

You already know that the crying, the begging and the coercing don't work and that that behaviour doesn't work because it is not attractive.

There is absolutely nothing about that type of behavior that will make your ex-boyfriend see you as the woman that he has to be with. 

You have to become the type of woman that he wants to be with again. You want to be the one he finds sexy, alluring, attractive, fun, spicy and who has it together. 


But hold on, that's not that hard to do is it?

Why you ask? Because you were once with him! There was a time not so long ago that he found you attractive, and attractive enough to be in a relationship with you.

So how can you attract your ex boyfriend now even though quite a bit of drama might have happened immediately after you two broke up?

The answer is simple. In order to attract him, the first thing you have to do is to control your emotions.

I'll give you two reasons why this is so important.

1. The needy, clingy behavior which so many people display immediately after a break up because they are caught up in their emotions is not attractive. That type of behavior is NOT going to inspire your ex-boyfriend to be drawn to you. He needs to FEEL drawn to you.

That feeling is him being attracted to you and, as you know, when a man is attracted to you, he wants to do things to get closer to you. He wants to come see you; he wants to talk to you; he wants to call you; he wants to take you out.

Why? Because he can't help it! He's attracted to you! Any type of clingy, needy behavior based on out of control emotions works to your disadvantage and will push him away. 

In other words, he won't ever feel like coming toward you if you display that sort of behavior. So stop it now.

2. Whenever you are in complete control of your own emotions to the point where you cannot be manipulated, the other person caught up in the dynamics of the relationship with you will be forced to take notice. That person will start to become more emotional.

For example, if your ex-boyfriend broke up with you today. He says "I think we should stop seeing each other. I don't love you anymore. We are done". Your gut instinct is to cry, beg and plead for him to change his mind and give your relationship another chance.

But what if ... instead of doing that, you controlled your emotions even though you felt like your world was about to fall apart, and you simply said "ok, if that's what you want" and then continued living your life as if he were never in it?

What do you think that would do to him? The first thing he'll do is start to wonder if he actually meant anything to you at all. That is him becoming more emotional because you are not showing any emotional weakness whatsoever. You see what I'm saying?

And that is exactly what you want! Because then you get him to think about you, wonder what the hell is going on and why you are not upset about the break-up. When that happens, YOU are now fully in control.

I witnessed this happen just two months ago with two friends. It was amazing to watch.

He said "We're finished", she said "ok" and prepared to move on. She was hurt but she never tried to get him back. They were back together in less than a month and are still together as I write this. He asked to get back with her!

When you are fully in control of your emotions, that's when your ex-boyfriend starts seeing you very differently and when that happens, you suddenly become attractive to him.

You become mysterious. You just told him ok, that's fine but you don't actually say anything else so he doesn't have a clue what else you are thinking or doing.

And that's just what I mean about the attitude you have. What you are telling him but without telling him really is that he is free to go. He wants to break up with you, right? 

Cool, because that doesn't mean that your life stops or that you can't live with out HIM and you have to convey that message to him without actually saying it.

You get it?

Right so forget about getting him attracted to you. You want him addicted to you, right?

Exactly, so go here to listen to the video and download your programme.

It's all in the ATTITUDE I tell you.

You can be with him, not be with him, doesn't matter AND he NEEDS to know that.