You have begged, pleaded and implored your ex-boyfriend to take you back. You have gone through range of emotions with him: anger, frustration, sadness... You even threw a pity party and played the victim or martyr role as I like to call it.
You shed a flood of tears either in a bid to make him see how sorry you are for whatever he wants you to believe you did or in an effort to make him feel guilty for dumping you. All of these emotions and subsequent actions are linked to the rejection that you felt when your boyfriend broke up with you. They are based on the fear of losing someone you love and on the fear of being alone.
What I have just described, though perfectly normal, now makes you look desperate to get your ex-boyfriend back. Here is why none of the above will work.
Firstly, you are projecting negative emotions because you are operating from a place of fear and panic. Whatever emotion you project will be returned to you. You project a negative emotion and you will get a negative reaction from your ex.
In addition, these feelings of negativity are killing any remnants of attraction your ex has for you. If you want to get your ex to feel the positive emotions he needs to feel in order to be attracted to you and want to be around you and no one else, you have to project positive emotion. It is just that simple.
Secondly, desperation and neediness are the two biggest attraction killers. It is a fact that people are attracted to confident, calm, self-assured individuals who are happy within themselves. The desperation and the neediness convey to your ex that you cannot be or live without him and that he is responsible for your happiness.
This in a nutshell is too big a responsibility for anyone and a sure turn-off. In other words, when you act desperate and needy, there is no way that your ex will feel the attraction necessary for him to want you back.
Thirdly, because of the way you are now acting, you bear no resemblance to the person your ex met and fell in love with. You need to steel yourself and become the person you ex loved to be around. What were you like when you and he first met? How have you changed since then? More importantly, how do you become even better than before?
Now that you know that the only way to get your ex back is by becoming attractive again, you just have to figure out exactly how to do this.
Fortunately for you, you have a ready made way to do this right here.
As I said somewhere on the blog already, it's all in the attitude!
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