He broke up with you. Just remember that!
You’ve been through all the drama, the pain, the tears, you’ve fought through it abut you know what? You are still here.
You are still surviving, you didn’t die, lost a family member, a limb or money because your ex-boyfriend broke up with you.
What this means therefore is that you are perfectly capable of living without him.
The question that you now need to ask yourself is if you are sure that you want this man back. He broke up with you remember?
So really it’s his loss. He threw away what you had. So if he doesn’t want to be with you. That’s fine because in theory there are many more where he came from.
This is what I would really prefer for you to be thinking, to tell the truth.
But ok, let’s say that you have done your assessment of your previous relationship and by your estimate, yes this is, in fact, a man that you would like to be with again for a solid, happy relationship. Yes, you do want to do things differently this time around.
If you are sure that you want him back, the first thing you have to do is to control the relationship between you two. I’ll explain why.
Have you heard the saying that in a relationship, the person who cares least controls the relationship?
Up to this point can you see how this is true?
Until now, your ex has been controlling the relationship between you two and your emotions as well. He broke up with you and managed to break your heart in the process because out of the two of you, he cared least about the relationship.
Well clearly since he wanted to break up with you. He wanted to end the relationship so that is a no-brainer.
But do you also see how he has managed to control the relationship to the point where he was able to make you upset and thinking of doing things that under normal circumstances you would not even think of doing?
He had you acting like a little basket-case over HIM? And trust me, he isn’t THAT hot. Not hot enough for you to be acting psycho....Forget it.
Well I can assure you that that is about to change because we are going to flip the script on him!
You now have to become the one who cares least. You have to be the one who controls the relationship. That’s how you’ll stand any chance whatsoever of getting him back!
Your mission, should you choose to accept it, will be to convey a message to him that clearly states that you are over him and couldn’t care less whether he was in your life or not, but WITHOUT ever uttering those words.
Here are two good reasons why you want to do that!
This gives you a chance to ensure that you and your emotions are no longer being controlled by this man. Even more importantly than the effect this will have on him, is the effect that this will have on YOU.
Instead of focusing on him and what he does which shows that he still has control over you and your emotions, you get to pull back, collect yourself and focus on you and how you can better yourself.
This has nothing to do with him and everything to do with you.
You neglected yourself way too much in the past few days thinking about him and what he did to you.
Enough! It IS time to take back control of you and your emotions and you do that by focusing on you!
If this man really did love you and care about you then he has to feel some way about the thought of losing you for good or at least knowing that you might no longer give a damn about him or anything he does.
Once you start acting in a way that conveys this message to him, he’ll start to wonder if he meant anything to you at all. Then he’ll start to wonder it ALL the time because you are no longer giving him the time of day and so soon after the break –up to make matters worse!
What the hell is going on? Doesn't she miss me? Good...let him keep thinking that :)
Meanwhile, you are living your life and not thinking about him as a factor in your life … or so he thinks.
I actually don’t want you to think of him at all because then it makes it all the more real and interesting.
When he begins to believe that you don’t care about him at all, he’ll find a way to contact you and that’s your big break...
This is how you become attractive again, for yourself and to attract your ex- boyfriend and that is exactly what you want, correct?
Now you'll need specific things to do to convey this message and guidelines on what to do when.
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