I want my ex-boyfriend back - Why did we break up in the first place?

When couples break up, there is usually a lot of pain and a feeling of betrayal even if there was no cheating involved.

I understand that you are hurt, upset, worried and most of all disappointed.

If however you do really want to get your ex boyfriend back, you cannot let those feelings and emotions get control over you and cause you t act like a raving lunatic so much so that your ex wants absolutely nothing to do with you.

You have to think strategically. What is the point of getting back together with your ex if you have no clue what really caused the break-up in the first place? Then you'd just be repeating past mistakes if you two got back together.

So calm down and think about the following:

What exactly came between the two of you? Be honest about your relationship.

What were the main or core problems? Not the satellite issues or the symptoms of the problem but the real underlying issues.

Write down what you think are the main issues that led to your break up. Here you can also write down the symptoms. You may even start with the symptoms first so that you can better isolate the core problems.

After you identify the problem or problems, what are the solutions if any?

Again, for each problem, write down one solution that you think is viable. Bear in mind that this is just for you to see if there is any point beginning the plan to get back with your ex at all. These are just your ideas and will have to be worked out with him later on to see if he agrees.

If you cannot come up with a viable solution...then perhaps it's in both your best interests not to be together.

If, however, you can identify some concrete problems and specific solutions, then I do think that you should try to give your relationship another chance!

Click here for a system that puts you in control of the situation and of whether or not your ex wants to get back with you!